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By Isobel Van Dyke
oppy Jamie is the mindfulness expert trying to alleviate our anxiety. Her podcast, app and now book, Happy Not Perfect, aims to help to âUpgrade Your Mind, Challenge Your Thoughts, and Free Yourself from Anxietyâ. Below, she spoke to The Stack about the tricks and techniques that kept her own stress-levels to a minimum whilst running a business.
She let us in on a secret: non-negotiables. Getting to know yourself in order to unlock your non-negotiables and never dwindling from them.
âThat was my mistake: thinking that life could wait, it canât. We are human beings, not human doingsâ
What does it mean to be your âtruest selfâ?
âTo be in alignment with your soul. That sounds quite wishy washy and fluffy, but actually the more I have learnt and researched and explored the neuroscience of mental health, the more that the science is in harmony with what used to be understood in a spiritual realm.
When we are doing things that truly bring us joy, our nervous system sings. We are not only our happiest self but our healthiest self too.â
âWhat you need to make sure of is that your happiness is not attached to or dependent on something happening in the futureâ
How do we access our truest self?
âYou have to take the time to understand yourself to realise what brings you joy. There is a difference between what we think will bring us joy and what actually does. We have to understand the difference between desire and true, soul needs.
There are jobs that naturally elevate our talent, and then there are also jobs that donât play to our skillset. More access to and understanding of self allows us to thrive at work, without trying to understand ourselves, we are vulnerable to more stress.â
What advice would you give to entrepreneurs reading this who might be feeling anxious about the future of their businesses?
âYou have to be constantly connected to self. You have to know when to push down on the accelerator, and when to put the breaks on. But also, life is a dance. Those late nights are inevitable, but you have to remember to compensate for them on the weekend. Our needs are a constant learning process.
Some stress can be a very good thing. Sometimes being uncomfortable at work means itâs your growth stage, youâre more tired because youâre carving out new pathways for yourself.
Investing in workshops such as Access To Self, or coaching, or any sort of personal development is truly the best sort of investment you can make. Youâve got to learn your own language.â
âInvesting in workshops such as Access To Self, or coaching, or any sort of personal development is truly the best sort of investment you can makeâ
What things do you do to compensate for the late nights?
âDance classes. Dance classes are so much more rejuvenating to me than having a night out, thinking that Iâll just have another glass of wine and it will temporarily make me feel a bit better - dance classes allow more long-term benefits and joy.
Whatâs so important is understanding your non-negotiables. We cannot expect to work like machines because we are not machines, we have to know our own needs. Everyoneâs needs are different, for me, itâs making sure that I start my day at 9am - over 8am - because having that extra hour in the morning to do things for me doesnât reduce my productivity, and more time doesnât necessarily mean more work. Iâm more interested in what makes me create better quality work.
âMore time doesnât necessarily mean more work. Iâm more interested in what makes me create better quality workâ
What are your own non-negotiables?
âMy own non-negotiables are sleep, dancing, and exercise. I know that an under-slept Poppy is a person much more likely to be irrational. A non-exercised Poppy is much more prone to emotions.
What you need to make sure of is that your happiness is not attached to or dependent on something happening in the future. Stop saying things like âwhen I raise moneyâ, or if you set up a business, donât let life wait. Your happiness should not be dependent on âwhen I get my first employee, or when I get a boyfriend, etcâ, you have to remember to live in the now.
That was my mistake: thinking that life could wait, it canât. We are human beings, not human doings. We all need practices in our day that take us back to being a human being.â
Wellness expert and creator of the Happy Not Perfect podcast, Poppy Jamie wants to remind us that we are human beings, not human doings
By Isobel Van Dyke
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