By The Stack World
elcome to the Bored Girl Era, where you're disinterested and uninvolved. You've spent all day running your own business, networking, and making power moves. But nothing is engaging you. You just feel like you've seen it and heard it all before. Being in the Bored Girl Era means that you can fake productivity during the day, but at night, you turn into a full blown couch potato. Your disinterest turns into fatigue, so now you're also too tired to go out and party. Instead you settle for Succession and a glass of wine. The dialogue is repetitive and bordering on ridiculous but at least you can put the subtitles on. You used to be the life of the party, but now, you're the party pooper. Nothing interests you. Your friends invite you out, but you decline because you know you're not going to hear or learn anything new.
In the Bored Girl Era, you've also become very indecisive. You can't decide what to order for dinner, so you might end up eating nothing. You can't decide what to wear, so you try on every outfit in your wardrobe before settling on the first one you tried on. You're so overloaded with choices and freedom. So much so, that you don't even know what to do with it.
Why are we in Bored Girl Era?
First we burnout, juggling multiple responsibilities, including work, family, relationships, and social life leading to exhaustion. Burnout leaves us feeling unmotivated and disengaged so then we Do The Work. We do this work mainly using technology watching motivationa speeches and listening to podcasts, but beware, it can also contribute to boredom. Social media and constant connectivity can lead to information overload and eventually we experience a lack of stimulation. It's just so damn easy to scroll. And then where does scrolling take us? To endless feeds of people doing amazing sweetie, so we then feel unfulfilled.
Despite having access to more opportunities and resources than previous generations, many of us still struggle to find fulfillment in their lives. We are bored in our jobs, relationships, or other areas of their lives, leading to a sense of aimlessness. Or maybe you've got that other dis-ease of too much fulfillment. You're one of those rare breeds who have achieved everything on your vision board. You've accomplished all the goals that you set. You've got all the money, all the security and all the outfits you ever wanted. Now what?
One of my biggest fears about doing therapy was that if I was healed and content, I wouldn't have the drive to succeed.
In order to pretend like you're actually doing something with you life, you've become obsessed with self-care. You spend all your money on massages and facials, just to have to something in the calendar. You've even started doing yoga and meditation to help you relax and "de-stress". You've also become a master at procrastination. You know you should be doing something productive, but you just can't bring yourself to do it. You tell yourself that you'll start working on that project tomorrow, but tomorrow never comes. Now, all you want to do is curl up in bed and binge-watch your favorite show on Netflix. While watching, it's also boring, so you spend hours scrolling through Instagram and Pinterest, looking for inspiration. You sink deeper into the bed, looking at your feed. It feels cosy there.
Bored Girl Era is terrifying for those of us for whom being busy is everything. We fear that we will lose our edge if we have no passion firing us up. We've been told our whole lives that we need to be productive, constantly working towards our goals and achieving success. And if we're not doing something every second of every day, well, we must be wasting time, right? One of my biggest fears about doing therapy was that if I was healed and content, I wouldn't have the drive to succeed. Is contentment the same as boredom? Who knows, but these are pretty big existential thoughts.
When we're bored, we're forced to confront ourselves and our own feelings. And let's face it, that can be pretty scary. But here's the thing. Boredom isn't the end of the world. In fact, it can be pretty great. When we're bored, we're free to explore our own thoughts and feelings without any external distractions. We can daydream, get creative, or just plain relax.
Getting out of the Bored Girl Era can be challenging, but it's not impossible. Here are a few tips to help you break out of your boredom and start enjoying life again:
Try something new: It's easy to get stuck in a rut when you're doing the same things every day. Try something new, like taking a dance class or learning a new language. This will give you a new perspective and help you break out of your routine.
Get outside: Spending time outdoors can be refreshing and energizing. Go for a walk or hike, ride your bike, or have a picnic in the park. Stare at every single detail in nature. Look for the new.
Volunteer: Volunteering is a great way to get involved in your community and get out of your head. You'll also meet new people and learn new skills.
Connect with long lost friends: Spending time with old friends can be a great way to break out of your boredom and be stimulated again. Plan a fun outing or activity, or just have a movie night at home.
Set NEW goals: Setting far more audacious goals can help give you direction and purpose. Go big on achieving a wid personal milestone as having something to work towards can help you feel motivated and excited about the future.
In the end, the Bored Girl Era is just a phase, and it will pass. Eventually, you'll find a balance between being a boss and staying motivated. Until then, embrace the boredom, and enjoy the downtime. Your next big idea is just around the corner.
Getting out of the Bored Girl Era can be challenging, but it's not impossible. Here are a few tips to help you break out of your boredom and start enjoying life again.
By The Stack World
The ‘Pure O’ or ‘purely obsessional’ type of OCD is characterised by distressing, intrusive thoughts and mental rituals to cope with them. Rae Elliman shares her experience of living with – and learning to manage – these hidden compulsions