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By Isobel Van Dyke
hen I first moved to London, I was 18, geographically lost, and about to tumble head-first into my student overdraft. I spent the first few days promenading around Southbank, in full main-character-mode, seeing the city through Hollywoodâs eyes. I couldnât cook (still canât), and decided one evening, on a whim, to eat out.
The food was nothing special, in fact, I had unknowingly picked a countrywide chain restaurant. But regardless, sat in that restaurant - admist glances from restaurant staff - my 18-year-old self felt more mature than ever. I was in the capital, I had huge changes ahead of me, and most importantly, I was alone.
There is a romantic, meditative quality to dining solo - finding comfort in your own company and watching the world tick by whilst thoughts come and go. One person who takes solo-dining very seriously is Bre Graham, who is so in love with food that she takes herself on dates as often as she can. Bre is the food writer and chef behind the Instagram account and newsletter Dishes to Delight, where she shares her favourite, simple recipes that celebrate ingredients. Her posts are so filled with joy they will brighten your day - and make you slightly envious when eating your lunchtime meal-deal.
Below, Bre explains in her own words what dining solo and âromancing yourselfâ means to herâŚ
âYou donât have to wait for an extraordinary circumstance to cook something beautiful, you are reason enough to do thatâ
For me cooking has always been an act of romance, with yourself...
I was single for a really long time and I didnât want to be excluded from the narrative of taking yourself out for a meal or going to an amazing restaurant and sitting alone. I now love doing things like that by myself.
I dress up and treat it as a date with myself. That translates to cooking too. You donât have to wait for an extraordinary circumstance to cook something beautiful, you are reason enough to do that.
You donât have to think about anyone else or think âmy partner doesnât like thisâ - itâs about you and only you, completely in charge. I think thatâs a very powerful thing.
My ideal evening is based around individual ingredients. Iâll finish work and immediately take myself off to a fishmonger or a gorgeous deli and treat myself to one special thing that Iâm desperate to create with. Iâll hunt out some incredible seafood or a rare cheese for example, and then build the meal around that.
Thatâs my ideal evening, food and wine.
For when weâre too exhausted...
My go-to meal is a very simple, impossible-to-beat, spaghetti in tomato sauce. You can do it in a variation of ways but there is nothing better than a home cooked tomato sauce and spaghetti. It can be the cheapest, crappiest spaghetti in the world and a 20p tin of tomatoes, but with a little bit of oil and garlic youâve got something that is so satisfying and so comforting.
When I feel like going outâŚ
People watching is the greatest entertainment. Sitting with a notebook and watching the world tick by. The places that immediately come to mind for solo dining are the likes of Rochelle Canteen in Arnold Circus, Spring at Somerset House, I go back to the same 10 restaurants on rotation - Missy Flynnâs latest venture Ritaâs in Soho opened recently and is wonderful.
For people watching paired with beautiful food, Bre lists her favourite restaurants for solo-dining...
For people watching paired with beautiful food, Bre lists her favourite restaurants for solo-dining...
How to date yourself, top-tips from Bre Graham
By Isobel Van Dyke